Eyes in the back of my head February 28 2015 4 Comments
There are times, many times when I am home alone with all four children and I don’t know what each individual is up to. I have a pretty good idea, but as all Mums of toddlers know, silence is not golden.
Over the year that the twins were two, we had two gorgeous Au Pair's help our family. A lot of the time, their sole purpose was to follow the twins around making sure they weren't up to too much mischief. Bless their German hearts, they adored the boys and helped them thrive.
The older two can be like a couple of ducks gliding along a lake.......don't be fooled by their calm, graceful looks. Recently I was reminded that there is a lot happening beneath the surface when I found this on my computer
We were lucky to have moved into our current house when we already had two little boys. Never in our wildest dreams did we imagine what would happen next to our family, but nonetheless we renovated our home and garden with the forethought to make it as childproof as possible. And when I say child proof, I mean boy proof. Climbing, eating, sneaky, cheeky boy proof. Thank goodness.
Today I was cleaning the kitchen after a particularly slow and messy Saturday morning and thinking these exact thoughts. I could see one, hear another and I knew the eldest was on the iPad. The fourth and final was nowhere to be seen or heard. After a quick lap of the house, I found him in the garden putting a pair of roller skates on. Having not yet mastered that skill, I think I caught him in the nick of time.
That’s pretty much what my life is at the moment when all of the boys are home with me. Pre-empting disasters and having eyes in the back of my head. Constantly averting them of danger and trying to teach as we go. I want them to be brave, to trust themselves and to remember their childhood as carefree and fun. But I do not want to have to jog my memory of that first aid course or test my calm in a crisis. No thank you.
I'd love to know some tips from other Flat Out Mums on how you keep your eyes in the back of your head?
Things I love February 26 2015 2 Comments
Today I caught myself staring at an older couple walking through the supermarket holding hands. They seemed so familiar to each other, yet still so in love. When you become a Mum, especially a Flat Out Mum, the day can very quickly pass with the logistics of looking after everyone else.
Little things happen throughout the day that can make you pause and appreciate the fleeting moments.
Here are some more of those little things that I now love and appreciate:
- Long hot, uninterrupted showers
- That first sip of coffee in the morning
- Boys in all their testosterone filled glory
- Driving on a beautiful day singing a favourite tune
- Warm balmy nights
- Ballet flats
- That newborn baby smell
- Best friend brothers
- Feeling organised…just for a moment
- Shopping for girls things
- Devonshire tea
- Watching besotted mothers transfixed by their babies
- Shellac lasting nails
- Belly laughs with old friends that turn into silent tears
- “You are the sunshine of my life” Stevie Wonder
- Toddlers soft squishy bodies
- Someone else doing my ironing
- Thai takeaway
- Crossbody bags
- Sleep ins. Or solid blocks of unbroken sleep
- Diving into a warm ocean
- Fitting back into my favourite clothes
- Watching reunions at airports
- Being part of an airport reunion
- A pie at the footy
- A good blow dry
- The most amazing natural vitamins…vitamin D & vitamin SEA
An Empty Nest February 02 2015
With 4 boys, our house is always very noisy. All parents of toddlers know that when it is quiet, it’s not good. They are up to something and most of the time for me they are not sitting nicely reading a book.
So the times that I had the house to myself I treasured. When Shane braved the park with all the boys or Mum walked the twins in the pram when the big boys were at school. I always hoped I would read a magazine or crash on the couch watching trash TV. I dreamed of some peace. Tragically I normally did a quick clean up, put some washing on & starting preparing the next meal before I was bombarded with noise and mess all over again.
But today is different. The twins started three year old kindergarten, so for a few days a week I now have the house and time to myself. It’s only been half an hour and I feel quite empty. I have longed for this day. The twins are so ready to start their education journey and make their own friends outside of their protected little bubble. My rational brain is telling me that.
My emotions are not. Since the twins arrived healthy just over three years ago, we knew these were our last babies. 100% definitely yes. It was a good and bad feeling. I absolutely treasured every stage of the twins development and tried really hard to not wish the time away. I lived in the moment a lot more than with the first two. I slowed down and I simplified. I have to remind myself that although I look back on the time now and it seems to have been whisked out from out beneath me like a magic carpet, I did savour them and love them the best way I knew how.
There is a beautiful quote about being a parent by an American writer Elizabeth Stone:
Today not one, but four hearts are walking outside my body.
So what did I do to take my mind off how they were coping? I took myself off to pilates for the first time in two months….not only am I getting an emotional beating today, but a physical one too. No pain, no gain.
How did you feel when all of your children were finally at school?
My new BFF's January 30 2015 1 Comment
This morning I drove away from the kids second day of school with a massive grin on my face.
Yes I was glad to be back in the school routine and to have more time on my hands. But I already miss the slowness and spontaneity of the holidays, as well as the quality time I spent with my boys.
But the grin was not about that.
I did not realise how much I had missed the other school Mums on our amazing 54 days of summer.
Our eldest boy has just started year three and I already I have strong bonds. We share a nostalgia that is usually only shared with really old friends. We braved the first day of Prep together, we have cheered on at sports days, wiped away their child’s tears as if they were our own and text late at night for details on the almost forgotten cake stall or book week requirements.
We have not been judged when we turned up late in unmatching shoes or accidentally forgot an important assembly. Instead these things have endeared us to each other. We are in this together and no one else quite understands. It’s so nice to share this camaraderie with the eclectic mix of women who have crossed my path. Some fleetingly, others who already know almost everything about me.
The Mum I see in the tuck shop line every Friday, the stylishly dressed Mums heading off to somewhere exciting, the late Mum double parking, the new Mum balancing backpacks & babies with equal grace. I love and relate to them all.
I didn’t realise how much I loved my short conversations, exchanges of wisdom and empathetic knowing glances each day. I have made friends with some people I perhaps may not have before motherhood. The kids choose their own friends and school fete rosters force you together. Everyone has a story.
It’s not just the kids being welcomed back into the comfortable, familiar embrace of the school yard and it feels good.
If you're just starting out on this journey, I'd remind you to not judge a book by its cover. Along with your kids, you too are starting an amazing adventure where true friendships are formed. Do you agree?
Launching in October 24 2014 1 Comment
Well here I am about to upload my first blog post. I feel like I’m standing on the edge of a cliff about to jump off.
One part of me says take the plunge, the other is wavering. Does the world really need another Mummy blogger? Are my opinions interesting to anyone other than my family and friends? The answer I hope to some will be yes. One of the main reasons I thought to write a blog is to celebrate the role of being a Mum. In our everyday lives in what could be seen as mundane tasks, there is a magic.
Hidden between the layers of mess and exhaustion there is insight to be gained and fun to be had. Every Flat Out Mum has something to say and someone who loves to hear it.
There are fashion blogs, single parent blogs, recipe and housekeeping blogs, blogs for working Mums, stay at home Mums, fitness freak Mums… This is my piece. Its not a specialist blog, Its just a general overview of my life with four kids. No theme, just a space to laugh at myself and to share with readers some day to day trivia of the job at hand. With any luck it will become a place for other Flat Out Mums to enjoy too.
Everyday mixed bag blog reading mums.
I'd love to hear from you all.....